The “T” Factor
Some happenings or incidents that take place in our day to day life sometimes make us to sit back and think…and that’s what I was up to today. Was just trying to understand what is the single most important and common factor that I share with most of the relationships that I have with all the people who are dear to me be it my folks, siblings, friends, a few colleagues and may be a few others who may not necessarily be close otherwise but at any given point in time in one’s life they tend to share the same platform as that of the few others who are life to me.
So what’s this common factor that sometimes makes us so dependable even on complete strangers?? Is it the most important aspect to any relation?? Is it the only aspect to keep any relationship goin…???What if this T factor is missing??? But what is this T factor…well I call it the “Trust Factor”. As an old saying which I very strongly believe in is “We are never so vulnerable than when we trust someone, but paradoxically if we cannot trust, neither can we find joy or love”
These questions and the thought kept me bothering thru the day and am yet to find the correct answers…I am actually confused…I was advised by someone never to take people at the face value and the person also added that by saying this it does not mean that we shouldn’t trust people. We should trust them but not fully. Is it possible to say that I trust someone but only 10% or may be the degrees vary from person to person, of course it is. We do not trust everyone around us in the same degree or quantum. I have some set of people whom I can blindly have this T Factor & there are some with whom I will be cautious. So in this process of me trying to quantify the T factor that I have over my near & dear one’s I realised there are a few where the quantum of difference is marginal….so now where does this leave me… Then should I pretend that I actually trust someone when actually I don’t really do that from within. I could keep suspecting them of being up to some activity…Is it really possible to interact with people or just to live peacefully without the T factor…Questions and more questions…I am more confused..
Some more of my “Me Thinking Time” to dwell deeper into this so called T Factor to reach to some conclusion which is able to put to rest my apprehensions. One of the major conclusions that I could draw is that TRUST is the basis for any relationship. It may not be the only aspect to keep a relationship going but it is definitely the basis & strong basis goes a long way for a healthy life of any relationship. How much should I trust someone?? There is no right or wrong answer for this all I would say is that I would go by my instincts. There have been times when the instincts have proved to be wrong, but I guess one learns from experience. Would leave it with the thought that all of us would have heard about. Trust is like glass…once its the broken the pieces may be mended but it may never be the same again.
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