Lessons Of Friendship…

06Apr08

It is said that the character of a man can be judged by the friends he keeps. A statement to some extent I would agree with, because friends are the family that we create, they are family outside the biological family. This family of Friends that I have created has played a major role in moulding me into the kind of person I am. “Friendship”, I am sure a lot is said & written about Friendship as a relationship. Well relationships was something that I was shying away from writing about, but finally gave in because I really wanted to write about some of the major lessons that I have learnt from some of my closest friends. Lessons that have helped me grow as an individual, lessons that have made me look at different aspects of life, lessons that have helped me define my character.

Through this write up I wanted to acknowledge the presence of a few actually to be precise 6 people in my life who have made a lot of difference to me at various stages in my life. I would not be giving out any names but would like to bring out the major lessons that they have unknowingly taught me. And I am very sure when they are reading this they exactly know who it is that I am taking about.

 Lesson 1: Selflessness is something which is very rare in today’s times. One hardly gets to see this quality. And amongst that I came across this dear friend of mine who always placed others before herself, who found her joys by making her near & dear ones happy. That was or rather is her mantra for the good health of any relationship, was I able to adopt it fully?? Well definitely not like the way she has but I always have it in my mind.

 Lesson 2: Believe In your Dreams: This girl had her dreams very clearly set & today am really glad to see all things falling in place for her (Touchwood!!!).The perseverance & resilience that she has shown towards working out those dreams is just commendable. Just not allowing any kind of set backs to dampen her spirits. Her dreams coming true just makes my belief in the saying “Go for your Dreams” stronger.

 Lesson 3: “PATIENCE”I have understood the actual meaning of this word only after interacting with this individual. I don’t think I have so far come across anyone as patient as this girl. She has tonnes & tonnes of the same. She has succeeded to quiet an extent to make me understand the meaning & imbibe the same.

 Lesson 4: Positive Attitude. Here is one girl who oozes positivity; her sheer presence makes things around me go very lively & brighter than they actually are. No problem looks big enough for her. When we have so much of negativity and negative people around the presence of this individual in my life is the best thing that can happen to me, rather would like to put it this way that her friendship is one of the most positive things happened in my life.

 Lesson 5: Silent Support: This friend of mine has shown me that one need not go over the top with words & actions to show people & friends that they care. This is an art that I have been trying to learn from him. He has been what I can call “The Silent Supporter” for me, has seen me through the highs & lows of my career, relationships & all. Not once has he given me any of those pep talks to boost my confidence, but his actions have always been louder than words screaming to say that “Look I really care”. Well this is an art I would say not everybody can play.

 Lesson 6: With due respect to the others I would like to add not just one but a couple of things that this individual has taught me, the foremost being Live life everyday; take each day as it comes & live it as if there was no tomorrow. Enjoy every moment that life is putting you through the highs the lows, because everything has a purpose and there are major lessons to be learnt from them.

 The second being Maturity: I have heard this saying that Maturity comes with age, but looking at this person I would say that the saying is more of a myth. This girl has seen & been through some very tough situations at a very tender age. The maturity that she has shown in handling her life has been incredibly phenomenal. She has behaved 10 -15 years older than her age in handling all that life has put her through. I draw a lot of strength by just looking at the way she has been handling her life.

 The last lesson being Handling Relationships: By this I mean handling any relationship, be it with parents, siblings, friends or your love interest. She has managed to break another myth she plays the role of a counsellor to innumerable friends (one of them being me also) of hers to help them manage their love affairs/marriage without actually being in a relationship. She understands the complexities of relationships really well & I do not know how & from where does she do that.

 Well I would say that these are some of the few important lessons that I have learnt from my closest friends. All of them have many many more facets to their personalities & if I were to bring them out I can actually write a book. But to end it I would just add that Life has been really kind to me by making these people a part of me and through this article I wish to acknowledge the importance of each of their presence for me in my life.

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